Women and men in relationship is a topic that interest most of us on a daily basis as we live our lives through relating to each other, especially in the intimate relationship. The following article is a collection of key principles and facts about each gender in relationship.
#1: It takes courage to ask for help. But it’s not just men who are prone to shame attacks for voicing vulnerability and asking for assistance. Many women have this problem too.
#2: Women typically voice the most pain in marriage when they feel they can’t influence their partner.
#3: Men more frequently fall apart when a relationship ends, especially when his wife leaves him out of the blue. Often he has not really heard the seriousness of her complaints, paid attention or allowed himself to be emphatically affected be her telling him that his actions (or inactions) cause her pain.
#4: Women generally over function in the emotional department of the relationship and therefore take away their partner’s share in emotional experience and expression.
#5: Men usually need to learn to sit with their partner’s expression of sadness, anger, frustration etc and give her the gift of his full attention without trying to fix her feelings or shower her with advice.
#6: Women generally play the ‘pursuer’ while men play the ‘distancer’ game. This is usually a bigger issue for the woman. To break the cycle the woman is required to take her focus off her partner and put her energy into her own life.’
#7: Thinking logically and intellectualizing is a way of avoiding feelings. Men are often criticized for being logical instead of emotional, for problem solving rather than focusing on feelings. This can lead us to close our hearts and it separates us from our full humanity.
#8: Oscar Wilde said: “How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.” Women will at times be emotional, frustrated, irrational, hysterical, neurotic, insecure etc (and so do men – rarely). You can count on it so stop wishing for it to be different.
#9: According to a recent survey, men say the first thing they notice about a woman is their eyes and women say the first thing they notice about men is they’re a bunch of liars. The fact remains: Men are genetically geared to look at women, and not just their eyes. Women: Enjoy the attention.