11 Reasons To Go Online For Love

Where do you go when you are looking for love?

Are you considering joining an online dating site but not sure it’s for you?

Let me tell you how I first discovered online dating and why I firmly believe it fits in with our modern day lifestyles

A couple of years ago online dating still had a stigma attached to it. Although people were using the internet as a method of dating, they did not discuss it with friends or colleagues for fear of coming across desperate.

I recall a friend of mine who was initially embarrassed to tell me she had joined an online dating site. At the time, I was rather surprised as she was an attractive girl who would be considered quite a catch. However, after chatting to her I completely understood why she had resorted to this method of dating; she was simply tired of meeting timewasters who were not interested in committing to a relationship.

Whilst she had no desire to date some of the men who contacted her, there were quite a few she was interested in and she began a dating spell to make any “singleton” jealous. She then struck up an online relationship with someone who lived 100 miles from her. After exchanging many emails and chatting on the telephone, she decided to meet him. Obviously, the distance didn’t make the relationship ideal but the spark was there and she enjoyed 6 months dating someone with similar interests, shared romantic weekends together and had a fantastic holiday. Although he didn’t turn out to be “the one”, when I asked if she regretted joining an online dating site her answer was “Definitely not!” Her view was that if she hadn’t joined an online dating site, those 6 months would have been spent moaning about meeting the same timewasters in the same old haunts and wondering “what if”. She was simply being proactive in her search for love; after all life is far too short!

If you’re not convinced online dating is for you, here are 11 reasons why I think online dating has its advantages:-

1 You don’t have to wait until the weekend to meet someone.

2 You don’t have to get dressed up for a night “online”. Wear whatever you feel comfortable in at home.

3 If you work unusual hours online dating fits in with your schedule. You can log on at any time of the day to suit you; there is always someone online waiting to chat.

4 If you start chatting to someone and then decide they are not what you are looking for, put them back in the net gently and choose another. There are plenty of fish in the sea!

5 If you are tired of seeing the same old faces when you go out, there are people of all age groups all across the country waiting online to meet someone.

6 If you are new to an area online dating is a great way of meeting people whether it’s for friendship or dating. If you meet a few people online in your area, you can arrange a get together for you all rather than meeting on a one-to-one basis.

 7 If all of your friends have settled down or you have recently become single what better way to meet new someone quickly than to go online and meet more singles!

8 Anonymous messaging and chat rooms let you flirt to your heart’s content without any embarrassment or getting tongue-tied.

9 You will probably find out more about someone online before you arrange a date with them than you would if you had met them in a bar. Online dating usually makes people more cautious about who they choose to date and in this day and age that can’t be a bad thing!

10 We now live and date very differently to previous generations where the traditional place to meet people was in nightclubs, parties, at work or through friends. By joining an online dating site you are not excluding these avenues but simply extending your opportunities of meeting someone.

11 Finally, 1 month’s membership costs less than a night out and gives you hundreds of opportunities to meet your perfect partner – every night!

With so many positive reasons to go online for love, finding your perfect partner has never been easier. Try it out for yourself and please let me know how you’re doing.

An Important Factor Regarding Sex and Relationships – Learning About Sex and Relationships Goals

The goals of sex and relationships are usually the same; To give pleasure to someone that you have feelings for. But you need to worry about yourself, too. Your needs must be met at some point. Unless, you are so selfless that you just give up and quietly let pleasure pass you by each and every night.

Forget that!… Jump up and express yourself. You deserve great sex too.

Sex does not necessarily end when the man has a climax and men who continue in this attitude need to be taught better. The only one that can do that for these men is the women who are with them. This is a responsibility to the relationship. Too many women are left unsatisfied simply because they decide against expressing their own needs and explaining themselves.

Penthouse magazine once did a research study that found that the average woman needs around twenty minutes of stimulation to be able to climax. While the average man needs a mere two and a half minutes. The problem is obvious.

Another very untimely difference of inconvenience between women and men would be their biological clocks. A man reaches his sexual peak at age nineteen on average. A woman does not reach her sexual peak until age 30. Not exactly synchronized swimming.

Now, this article can easily be interchangeable for both men and women. Just understand that you need to voice what you like and dislike in democratic and considerable ways. When it comes to sex between two people who really like each other speaking up is often better than words left unsaid. Just keep the conversation in the here and now and you will rarely regret bringing it up. I tend to look at it this way: Would I rather save face getting only what could be a lot better. Or would I rather feel foolish for a moment and get what I want forever afterwards.

Knowing these facts, means there are things that we can try and learn to overcome them. Seeing them not as faults or problems but as challenges can make a big difference. Some nights should be focused on satisfying yourself and others you should focus on satisfying the one you love. Finding a good balance keeps everything on the up and up.

In your relationship, you are going to need to find out what your priority is when it comes to sex and pleasure. The fact is though, most men really want to please the woman. In many cases they just do not know how. This is an important factor in sex and relationships. Trust and communication come easy once you realize just how much they want you to be pleased. You are going to want to be the one to teach the solutions to these problems because you know yourself and what you like.

Sex and relationships are not always as complicated as we make them out to be. In a lot of cases there is no one to blame. Mother nature has no one to answer to this much is certain. But you do. You have to answer to yourself and your own body. Getting the sexual pleasure you need will help you live your life in a more fulfilled and balanced way. Allowing other areas to prosper from your happiness.

Facts About Women and Men in Relationships

Women and men in relationship is a topic that interest most of us on a daily basis as we live our lives through relating to each other, especially in the intimate relationship. The following article is a collection of key principles and facts about each gender in relationship.

#1: It takes courage to ask for help. But it’s not just men who are prone to shame attacks for voicing vulnerability and asking for assistance. Many women have this problem too.

#2: Women typically voice the most pain in marriage when they feel they can’t influence their partner.

#3: Men more frequently fall apart when a relationship ends, especially when his wife leaves him out of the blue. Often he has not really heard the seriousness of her complaints, paid attention or allowed himself to be emphatically affected be her telling him that his actions (or inactions) cause her pain.

#4: Women generally over function in the emotional department of the relationship and therefore take away their partner’s share in emotional experience and expression.

#5: Men usually need to learn to sit with their partner’s expression of sadness, anger, frustration etc and give her the gift of his full attention without trying to fix her feelings or shower her with advice.

#6: Women generally play the ‘pursuer’ while men play the ‘distancer’ game. This is usually a bigger issue for the woman. To break the cycle the woman is required to take her focus off her partner and put her energy into her own life.’

#7: Thinking logically and intellectualizing is a way of avoiding feelings. Men are often criticized for being logical instead of emotional, for problem solving rather than focusing on feelings. This can lead us to close our hearts and it separates us from our full humanity.

#8: Oscar Wilde said: “How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.” Women will at times be emotional, frustrated, irrational, hysterical, neurotic, insecure etc (and so do men – rarely). You can count on it so stop wishing for it to be different.

#9: According to a recent survey, men say the first thing they notice about a woman is their eyes and women say the first thing they notice about men is they’re a bunch of liars. The fact remains: Men are genetically geared to look at women, and not just their eyes. Women: Enjoy the attention.

Attraction and Relationships – Is it True That Behind Every Successful Man Stands a Woman? Part 1

In the ever-dynamic world of attraction and relationships, there’s an old cliché which claims that, “Behind every successful man stands a woman.”

Many women enjoy making this statement. Partly their goal is to deflect attention from the fact that he goes out and achieves great things while she may spend a big chunk of her day at the salon or at the Racket Club being tutored by “Guido” on her backhand.

But interestingly enough, we’ve never heard a man make that statement except when running for public office and pandering to get elected. Most successful men know better. We sometimes achieve great things and thus we create wealth, but our wives subsequently spend much of it.

Notwithstanding the fact that men work more and therefore earn more, women still account for roughly 80% of all discretionary spending. In other words, men earn most of the money and women spend most of it.

That’s teamwork?

Of course not. But on a deeper level, there actually is an element of truth to a woman standing behind every successful man. It relates to what’s called “the killer instinct” in nature: the willingness to set aside your state of mind and inner feelings to achieve a specific and very challenging goal.

Men who can’t do this will often end up moderately successful. They may reach lower, or (if technically sharp) even middle management. And to the average woman who can’t do better, they make fairly good catches. But the odds of men like this getting all the way to the top are slim, whether it’s in politics, business, or romance. They’re unwilling to do whatever it takes to meet that organization’s goals.

Instead they want to be liked. And because they’re compassionate, they balk at making the cold decisions that could benefit the organization at the expense of many loyal long-time employees and the community. And for that reason, the organization will give the most senior slots to men who don’t have those same qualms.

But it’s not enough to be cunning and ruthless. The real trick is to seem likable at the same time. Many politicians and business leaders are able to blend both talents. They’re wolves in sheep’s clothing. But very few guys are that ruthless by nature. Most of us are nice guys.

And that’s where women come in. We may not be cold, calculating or ruthless. But, women can summon up those qualities more easily than you might realize. Many women are extremely competitive, but most have also mastered the skill of seeming likable and so most men don’t realize (unless they’ve been to Divorce Court) just how cold, calculating, and ruthless women can be.

Guys who actually have the killer instinct tend to attract lots of women. But there are not enough of those guys to meet the female demand. So women do the next best thing: they develop their own “killer” man in-house. They find and marry a very smart, talented guy with a solid education and then proceed to hone his killer instinct.