If a man cheats on you the once and you want to give him the benefit of the doubt, I can understand that. Although I’m not too sure how my reaction would be if it happened to me. If you are in a relationship where the man is a continuous cheat then you really need to question your relationship. Why are you still with him? Ask yourself that question and be honest. Is it fear of being alone? Fear of being a single parent? Do you believe that’s the best you can do? Do you love him more than you love yourself?
The reason I ask do you love him more than yourself is because many women say they stay because they love him! Yes I can understand love. Is love abusive? no I don’t believe it is. It can be but we need to nip it in the bud immediately. No one wants to be in a abusive relationship.
Staying with someone who cheats is a choice its a choice to be abused. That may sound harsh but its the truth. You choose to stay in that relationship, you chose to stay with that partner. The good thing is, you can also choose when to leave. I understand that you need to feel strong within yourself before you can leave. You have to make yourself stronger. No one can do this for you but you. You have to make that decision to move on and move on for good. Find help in other places. Places different from the ones you may have been using in the past. Ie: friends and family. Yes their advice will be good for you as most of them will give you an un bias opinion. Read self help books if you don’t already, I believe that’s a good place to start. Start somewhere, where you can learn more about who you are. “Act like a woman Think like a man” written by steve Harvey. This is a book which was given as a referral from someone who left a comment. The title says it all!
Stop telling yourself negative things about yourself, its all a lie. The more negative you are about yourself the more you are going to believe it. What do you tell yourself when he cheats? do you say “oh he doesn’t love me, I’m not good enough for him, I’m too fat, I’m too ugly” Do you tell yourself things like “I cant raise the children on my own”. Think about those things that you say to yourself. The things we tell ourselves, make us behave in that way.
Im no Guru, I am a random person who has had many experiences with bad relationships. I want to share my experiences with women. I also have witnessed many bad relationships. I am happily married now after being single for many years. I want to share what I know with others. You can all know what I did to get the bad relationships and what I did to finally receive my husband.